Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Stress and Chronic Illness (Patient for a Moment Blog Carnival Post, PFAM)

I'm writing this post for the Patients for a Moment Blog Carnival, the topic is "The Stresses of Chronic Illness" chosen by Selena from Oh My Aches and Pains
                      
This is a huge topic. I have learned different techniques over the years to handle stressful situations, I’ll be honest and tell you none of them have worked really well. When I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis in 1988 I was told to avoid stress, it would make my condition worse, the same was said with the addition of my Sjogren’s Raynauds and Lupus. Just being alive is stressful, there is no way to avoid it, being in pain day in and out causes stress, I find going to see my doctor causes me to stress. Will I get good news or bad? What will my blood tests say today?

You worry about the medical bills, the cost of your prescriptions. Which appointment and medication is absolutely necessary? You have to be selective to keep up with your everyday bills. On top of that there is the worry of, your insurance approving your medication? Will the medication make me sick?

The stress of the illnesses, watching what they do to your body, your hair falling out, your fingers bending, damage to your teeth, losing your vision, scars all over from joint replacement surgery. Will your spouse still find you attractive? Your self esteem goes down the tubes.

You can’t predict the next hour, you can’t plan to go to an event. You deal with guilt, sadness, anger, frustration, loneliness, people judging you, worse yet you judge yourself.

When you go to bed, you toss and turn hoping for sleep, wondering if you will be able to get up in the morning. Will I be able to attend my child’s event? Can I clean my house? The list is endless.

When my stress level gets too high, I write, go for a walk when I’m able, listen to music, read, play games on Facebook, watch movies, go for a drive, read other people’s blogs, anything I can find to get my mind off the situation and relax. There are times when nothing works, and the stress is ongoing I’m not sure what the answer is, if anyone out there has it, let me know.

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    1. On my way, I am a follower already through G+, I will add to it.
      Have a great day!

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  2. Hi Lorna, thanks for following me on bloglovin and thanks for keeping up with my blog ^.^

    *Big HuG*

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    1. No problem Hannah, I enjoy reading all of your makeup tips.

      *Big Hug* right back to you.

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  3. Lorna, I'm so sorry to read about your pain. I have no idea what it's like except that it must be difficult. I hope that you connect with someone that can help you and you can identify with.

    Thanks for following my blog. I'd love it if you stopped by my Weekly BlogLovin Hop to make some new friends. http://www.journeysofthezoo.com/2013/04/bloglovin-linky-thursday-april11.html

    Besos, Sarah
    Blogger at Journeys of The Zoo
    Finding Humour in Everyday Life
    journeysofthezoo at hotmail dot com

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    1. Thanks Sarah, I have met a lot of people online in my situation. I have met a lot of wonderful people who are not in my situation too. I enjoy talking to both, a lot of times the last thing I want to talk about is my health. You could probably never tell that by my blog right now :) It will be more everyday life when this challenge is over again.

      Thanks for inviting me to your hop, I will check it out.

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  4. Boy, do I ever know what you mean. They tell me to avoid stress and to relax relax relax... How on earth can I do that when I'm in pain? How can I do that when I can no longer do what used to help me relax: vigorous exercise? How can I do that when just trying to live daily life will cause more pain? How can I do that when life itself throws curve balls: my partner's own stresses; family squabbles; worries about money because I'm not well enough to work full time, etc?

    I wish I had easy answers for you but I can't find any for myself.

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  5. In my chronic pain journey I've recently discovered daily moments of quiet and mediation help to reduce my stress and anxiety. I also love to take a daily walk. Sometimes it's just to the mailbox or it can be a mile around the neighborhood.
    Thank you for sharing your chronic illness journey.

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    1. Thank you for taking the time to read my blog, and to comment. I appreciate your suggestions! I enjoy going for walks as well, I can't wait for this neverending Minnesota winter to be over!
      Have a great day!

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